Friday, July 22, 2016

Five Friday Favourites

This week has been crazy but good, I have applied for 3 jobs this week and I am praying that one of them comes through, I am waiting to hear back about a job (I have until Monday week to hear from them and if I don't then I have not been shortlisted). If you guys could please pray that I get an interview soon (the one that has until Monday week to contact me is one that I feel like I could handle) that would be amazing!
Moving on to five friday favourites in no particular order:

Good Witch on Netflix - I am always after a new show to watch and when I stumbled across this one I was plesantly surprised with how much I enjoy it. It's a great escape and I find myself feeling really calm after watching it. It's about relationships and the little things in life that you may miss when you're in a hurry.

Initial beads from Pandora - I received a Pandora bangle for my 21st last year and I love looking at all the beads that you can get, so when I saw the new initial beads I knew that I needed to buy one. I ended up buying one on Wednesday and it looks even better in person.

All 85 Degrassi Characters ranked - its no secret that I love Degrassi Next Gen and someone has taken the time to rank all 85 (past and present) characters. This list is super well done and on point plus by reading it you get to see just how many big issues they have covered over the years!

Snickers Pods - a friend recently told me about these - I mean I knew they existed but I didn't realise how addictable these were! They are the perfect combination of chocolate and peanut butter with crunch. I managed to eat a whole bag over the course of an afternoon! If you love peanut M&Ms you will LOVE these, maybe just space yourself over the course of a few days rather than do what I did.

FlowerNBird etsy shop - when I get bored I do online shopping (also when I'm tired I buy random stuff off ebay but thats a story for another day), so last rainy Saturday afternoon I decided to browse on Etsy to try and find a travel makeup bag. Long story short I stumbled upon FlowerNBird and when I saw this bag on sale I couldn't resist purchasing it (I also have my eye on this, this and this) . I am always after a new handbag (I try to limit myself to 1 a year) and this one looks like a good size (if a bag can fit a laptop in it I am happy as it allows me to feel like I can say its for study purposes) plus polka dots are such a classic print. I also love knowing that by buying it I am supporting a small business.

So they're my Five Friday Favourites for this week, hope everyone has a good weekend and I am praying that my next blog post will be full of some good job hunting news (God willing!).

Monday, July 18, 2016

More job applications

It's Monday which means a new week and a fresh new start! I should be doing an assignment but I got sidetracked by job applications which I guess is a good thing?
The job market is slowly starting to pick up which is good and I am praying that I will get a job soon. The job I applied for a couple of weeks ago has closed which means I have 2 weeks to find out if I have advanced to the next round, I never actually got an email after I submitted the application so I am praying that they actually processed the application, but I will just wait and see.
This morning I applied for 2 jobs both in similar areas that my last job was in but shorter hours and in different locations so I am hoping as I have relevant experience that one of my applications will be successful there.
Being unemployed does wear you down and its tough to stay positive when in reality you often just want to hit your head against the wall.
In this society so many people believe that if you can't get a job then you are not trying hard enough or you don't really want to work when its the opposite for the bulk of us. I left my last job due to my anxiety, I did not choose to have anxiety and it's not my fault that I can only work part time or have to be super selective with the jobs I apply for. So for me trying to find any jobs to apply for is like looking for a needle in a haystack which is super hard to find. 
I know God has mapped out my future, its just super hard to stay positive and focused on the bigger picture when I can see only what's in front of me which is very little.
I saw the picture below a while ago and it made me laugh.

Sunday, July 10, 2016

Back from a break and 10 things that have been happening in my life

I somehow managed to take a 10 day break from blogging which was not intentional its just when you get involved with a school holiday program that leaves you with a killer cold and feeling exhausted blogging takes a back seat!
Here are 10 things that have been happening with me:
  1. I have just finished watching How I Met Your Mother on Netflix and it was a great rollercoaster of emotions and everyone needs to watch it. The ending could've been better but all in all it was a solid series and the characters were amazing.
  2. I have applied for one job which is better than nothing, it took me two hours and 1 block of chocolate to do the job application, so I am praying that it will work out.
  3. I finished the sequel to Me Before You, After You and I felt underwhelmed and found it was too predictable for my tastes. Read it if you've read the first book but don't go out of your way to read it and keep your expectations low.
  4. The Olympics are due to start soon and a great movie to get you in the mood is Full Out which is about competitive gymnastics. I loved the look into the world and it was a great film to watch. It has some Degrassi alums in it as well so you know it will be good.
  5. I've been thinking about what TV show I would watch if I could only watch one for the rest of my life and its come down to a draw between Degrassi or Greek both are shows that have a good balance between drama, comedy and everything else. I find to escape I need a show that will make me laugh but I also love drama.
  6. We celebrated a friend from America's birthday on Saturday night and I was in charge of making the cake. I kept it simple with a zebra cake on the inside (chocolate and vanilla) and vanilla buttercream I wasn't given a design brief but couldn't resist topping it with Starburst Aussie Animals. It turned out cuter than expected and tasted just as good as it looked. It was a fun cake to make and a huge hit. (*You also know its a good cake when you get told to send a pic of it to a friend who pulled out last minute due to illness to show them what they're missing out on!)
  7. I just lodged my tax return and I am expecting a decent amount back which is an answer to prayer. It will be enough to top up my savings and cover a few things that I have coming up. It was more than first thought and the team at Etax were great and it was really easy to do.
  8. It has been feeling like Winter (which is expected as we are in the middle of Winter!) over here and I swear its been the coldest winter I've ever experienced we normally might have 1 or 2 days where the max is 15 degrees but it seems like we are getting at least 1-2 days where its 15 degrees or less per week. I pretty much live in jeans and jackets at the moment and its not uncommon for me to have a scarf and the heating on in my car most days.
  9. I will admit that I find it hard to do regular bible reading and devotions. I just can't commit to it and find it challenge to sit down on a daily basis and read my bible. I've tried many things but when I came across One Minute Devotions For Young Women I figured it was worth a try and its really helped me. Every day there is a short bible verse and a devotion, it doesn't take me more than a minute and its relevant to me. I keep it next to my bed and do it before I go to sleep, its also a decent size and I love the cover.
  10. On Tuesday I am going to visit a Cat CafĂ© which I am super excited about! You pay $12 and get to spend an hour playing with some cute cats all who were adopted from the local cat shelter (where I got Rikki from!) it should be a fun day out and who doesn't like enjoying some sweet treats while also seeing some cute cats.
The above it just a snippet of how my life has been going, I am looking forward to getting back into regular blogging soon :)

Thursday, June 30, 2016

Feeling Drained

I have been feeling drained as of recently, I wish I knew why but I am struggling a lot with just trying to stay focussed on the bigger picture! There have been NO suitable jobs available for me to apply for and everything just feels likes its a standstill. I know I should trust God with it all buts its really hard when you feel like you are staying in one spot!
Next week is the first week of the school holidays and I honestly thought I would have a job by now (I feel like I am repeating myself from this time last year!) but I don't and with very few prospects I am trying to make good of a an annoying situation and am volunteering at my churches annual July school holiday program. It will be a crazy week and throw in a few other commitments and an employment agency appointment and I am unsure how I will survive (probably with a lot of prayer!). I love doing it but by the end of the week I am half dead and last year I was living off caffeine (which won't work this year as I have given it up being the crazy person I am!).
Its just hard when you know that God has a plan for you but yet it seems like he has forgotten about you and you feel like a failure.
The other night I had a dream/nightmare where I was in my last job completely overwhelmed and just not being able to function (also screaming "I don't belong here!" and trying to make myself wake up from it) I woke up deep down knowing that this is what would've happened had I stayed there yet it's hard to accept when I felt like I had it all yet I threw it away.
The thing is we don't know what God will throw at us, the people we will meet along the way or what our future holds, all we can do is trust God and know that he knows what he is doing.

If you have a chance could you please pray for the following:
  • That the holiday program will be a success, that the kids will get to hear about Jesus and that the leaders stay energised and well throughout the week.
  • That I will remain patient while waiting for a job and I will eventually get a job sooner rather than later!
  • That I will feel reenergised and not so drained as I go through this transition and waiting period.

Monday, June 27, 2016

Bullying Causing Brokenness.

Growing up many experience have shaped me but none more so than bullying during my schooling years. I never wanted to write this post yet just like I felt I needed to do just like I did with my anxiety post. I felt that maybe it would be healing to write it down and prove to people that bullying does have lasting effects on people.
To start off I have been bullied by strangers, class mates, so called friends, teachers and everyone in between, there is no stereotypical bully of the big kid taking away kids lunch money in my story.
I have had stuff thrown at me, been called names, comments targeted at me and cyber bullied, each one has damaged me in some way.
I never thought that bullying would have such a negative effect on my adult life and honestly thought that when school ended that I could move on with my life. But the lingering effects still follow me and I don't know when I will be able to shake them completely.

Lets start from the beginning, having Dyspraxia I was a target for bullies I was the odd kid out, the one who couldn't catch a ball or ride a bike, the clumsy one, the one who spoke funny and because of that, the one kid who they saw as an easy target. I was diagnosed with Dyspraxia at an early age and because of that I required speech therapy in the hopes that my speech would be corrected, along with OT to help with my co-ordination. Despite all that (and later having surgery to correct my speech) kids saw that there was something wrong me and decided that they should point it out for the rest of the world to see. I already hated sport but combine that with kids who pick you last for teams and tease you when you are already trying your hardest, it wasn't fun. I would use every excuse in the book to get out of sport because for me it was torture.
Halfway through primary school I moved schools and the bullying stopped but of course it was only a matter of time before it started up again. Despite having had this surgery to fix my speech it didn't fix my co-ordination and again I became the target, add in that it was when my anxiety really decided to rear its ugly head and life was no fun.
The most negative experience in my life during primary school was when I was walking to the car after school and a kid chased me on his bike and kicked me just as I was entering the car, cue anxiety attack and my Mum (who witnessed the whole thing) calling the school to complain. Year 7 was not a good year overall not just because of the anxiety, the teacher really had no clue how to handle the class and had never dealt with bullying so severe, the principal was also clueless and it often required my parents to step in multiple times just to them to realise what was going on.

High school started and its at this point of the story it really began to shape me mainly because I recall most of it and the majority of it happened during those years. Year 8 was already off to a hard start due to anxiety and because of that the target was on my back loud and clear for all to see. I would get picked on during every class and it even escalated to getting stuff thrown at me, only a few teachers really noticed and tried to get it to stop but kids will find other ways.
I recall having had enough and deciding to stand up for myself and another boy who were getting targetted in science class and I was the one who got in trouble as apparently standing up for myself and attempting to put the bullies back in place is a no go and should be left to the teacher even when they were clueless as to it happening!
There was one student who was the ring leader of the group and my parents were given the excuse that he was going through a hard time because his sister had cancer, while that is understandable they could've supported him and given him the help he needed rather than making excuses for his behaviour and refusing to do much about it.
I was also bullied by a few teachers in regards to my beliefs; this was done by comments surrounding the church during medieval studies in SOSE because they knew I was a Christian and attended the local church.
That year was hard and when you also have so called friends who you thought you could count on give you the silent treatment, ignore you and target you in their group its tougher. So it was no surprise when my parents and I made the decision that I should leave the school and go to a private school for Year 9 onwards.
New school new teachers, new students, new start right? Well that’s what I thought which wasn't the case! The first few months were ok but soon the bullying began again, this time thankfully the teachers were on top of it and they actually made the bullies apologise for doing it but it seemed to be a never ending cycle!
In year 10 I experienced Cyber Bullying, something that at the time wasn't well known and the school had no idea how to handle it. When you are at home you think you are safe but there's nothing like getting some Facebook messages full of threatening and disturbing language targeted at you. The first time it happened the school said they couldn't do much, as though it was between two students from the school it happened out of school hours and not in an environment they could control, the second time it was screen shotted and sent to the school it was immediately death with and got on top of, they also made the other students parents get more involved (whom were extremely apologetic and upset at their child). The cyber bullying started because of comments some students were making in class at the student and myself and the student just snapped and I was the most convenient target despite it not being my fault.
Thankfully schools now have programs and procedures in place to target cyber bullying, but at the time it was almost unheard of!
In year 11 I experienced bullying targeted at my Dyspraxia, despite me explaining it to my classmates when they made fun of it. I was told my voice was annoying and that I couldn't talk properly and I sounded nasally, before then I had had a few comments surrounding it but it was enough to brush off this time the comments were consistent. I hated going to any class with those students because I was already self conscious of my Dyspraxia and speech and didn't need them to target it. That eventually stopped after the teachers stepped in and got involved multiple times but I lost confidence in my speech and how I sounded.
By this stage I thought that Year 12 would be better and while it was anxiety wise, it wasn't bullying wise, I struggled with friends and always felt like I was lost in that department. I also had rumours spread around about things that I was saying about other students none of which were true and spent one recess crying in the deputy principal’s office, thankfully the next period I had my favourite Maths teacher and she really helped me get through the day (its always hard going to class after you have been noticeably crying so to have her there was great!).
Finishing high school considering everything was a great achievement and I was glad to leave it all behind not realising how much would follow me around.

Having been bullied for so long I didn't realise how much it affects my daily life but my psychologist has really helped me see how it has shaped me, mainly in the following areas:
  • Confidence - this is a major area, my self confidence is low and I always second guess myself! I am always over thinking things and will often go back over the smallest things I have said and obsess over them.
  • Friendships - there are times when I can't help wonder why anyone would want to be friends with me or if they are just my friends out of pity. I also question my behaviour around friends and whether its normal. I've never been in a popular group so when people give me praise in a group I never know whether they mean it or not, as so many times people would say positive things as a joke and cause me embarrassment once I realised!
  • Certain types of personalities - there are some personality types that I am wary of from the get go because in the past those were the ones who would bully me. There are often people that I question their credibility even if I have never had any reason not to trust them.
  • Trust - this is linked in with the above but once you have had people be two faced with you it’s really hard to trust openly! I always find myself wondering deep down if I could fully trust certain types of people I am friends with.
  • Behaviour - people going in for a fist bump or high 5 I always question if they are really for me and there are times when I am on edge for no real reason in group situations.
  • Putting myself down - I may joke about how bad I am sports or how clumsy I am but a part of the reason I do that is because I figure if I do that for myself then it won't hurt as much if people do it to me. I am so used to getting bullied when it comes to sport that its become almost second nature to me to put myself down when it comes to it.
Whether I like it or not bullying has shaped me in so many ways and though I am consistently trying to fix the damage that has been made I know I will never be completely fixed. Its like a vase that was dropped and is now broken, sure you can glue it back together so its whole again but the cracks and evidence of it being broken will still be with it for years to come, some people will overlook them and see the beauty of the vase for it currently is and what it once was but other people will just see the damaged vase. I refuse to see myself as broken as to some degree I feel that we are all broken, yet there are days when I look in the mirror and all I see is the cracks and evidence of being bullied and the heartache it has caused. Bullying has been my past but I sure don't want it to be included in my future.

Below are some resources that are helpful if you or anyone either have gone through bullying or are currently going through bullying:
  • Destroying Avalon by Kate McCaffrey- I read this book just before cyber bullying happened to me and I found it a great resource. It's a great book that I think all high school students should read because it highlights it so well along with general internet safety. It also shows how being a victim of bullying can rule your life at times.
  • ReachOut- I couldn't do this post and not include ReachOut. Once again ReachOut has thoroughly covered this topic in detail and provided some great information and help.
  • Kids Helpline - sometimes when you are going through a tough time with bullying you need someone to talk to and if you are under 25 Kids Helpline is there to listen. Its a great comfort to know that you can ring the number 24/7 and someone will be there to listen.

*I wrote this post to show the long term effects that bullying has had on me as a person. I never in a million years thought that 5 years on from high school that I would be struggling with it and for so long I thought the above was all related in to my anxiety (to some degree it is) but in reality bullying has caused them. I was bullied by a variety of students for a varity of reasons, it was rarely by the same people, there is no 'one type' of person who is a bully. Deep down we are all capable of bullying someone whether its to get a laugh or to make yourself feel better or your are bored and its scary to think that it's so easy. Bullying can be as easy as making a mean comment at someone and its easy to not think of the consequences at the time.

Wednesday, June 15, 2016


The job market is non existant at the moment as in there are no jobs out there that I can apply for most days I am lucky if there is one job a week I can apply for! Its hard and doing my head in most days when I scan through the job listings. My employment agency has told me that June and July are the worst months to look for jobs and it shows. Thankfully they are keeping an eye out of for any jobs that I could do and keep telling me its not me but the job market. I have all the right skills, I have decent experience, I volunteer and I am studying all things that potential employers are looking for.
I know God is in control   of it all but its still hard to wait - I always find waiting to be the hardest during unemployment as its so easy to get lost in your thoughts while waiting.
What is funny is that I got employment in July last year which as I said above its one of the hardest months to get a job so I know it can be done and that's encouraging and I know God is on my side through it all so it could (hopefully, I-am-praying-non-stop-for-it-to-happen) again.
Every week I always try to plan something that I am excited about this week I am off to see Finding Dory by myself because I can and then Me Before You on Sunday with a friend and next week its the science museum with a few friends. Because it helps me have something to do and something that isn't boring and fun. Its being able to escape for a morning or day and just be a normal 21 year old who isn't worried about work or finances or what the hell I am doing with my life.
Having anxiety I find that I am my worst enemy at times and being able to escape helps me. It's why I read books and watch TV shows just because they provide an escape without having to go anywhere. Because for the time that I am reading or watching I am escaping and not focusing on the looming unknowns. I love being able to escape my mind if only for 30 minutes because for that 30 minutes I am not trapped in my mind but somewhere else.

Monday, June 6, 2016

God has it under control

Where do you see yourself in 10 years? Was a question my high school graduating class was asked to fill out to be placed next to our school pictures in the year book. Some answered it saying they had no idea, others put down their dreams, others put down something silly because in reality how many of us were going to look back on it. I put down that I would be married, with hopefully one child, a couple of cats and working part time in local government. Up until recently I thought I had achieved one of those points until I had to make the hard decision to leave it due to my mental health. I thought because I had crossed that off I could move onto the rest. I had to leave my job in order to save my sanitary just like I have to work part time in order to function. I still hope and pray that the other things will fall in place but honestly as long as God is into control I shouldn't worry about the next 5 years or even tomorrow. What I should've put down as my response? God has it under control. What I should tell people when they offer suggestions on what I should be doing in my life? God has it under control. What I should be thinking when I am feeling uncertain about this whole no job situation? God has it under control. Because deep down that is the truth and knowing that makes the future just that bit easier to face.